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AAssertive will not do. Confrontation is sweet to a fault. Almost very easy to bully types. Now for someone like that he needs someone who won't bully him. Who's. Who's like nice and like treats him gently and doesn't take advantage of him. Who he's found, suffice it to say is the opposite of that. She's one Gundi.
BWe'll discuss was he looking for destruction.
ABut I think he didn't even realize until he started talking to me. Like red flags. Red flags. And my parents left on. They left Sunday or May, Wednesday early morning. Monday and Tuesday were like our days together. We had things planned. Okay. I've met her three times in this trip with parents. This was the first time they also met her. In person. It's. I mean yeah, it's not bad, right? No, it's not bad. In contrast last year. But anyway it's not. Problem. I'm getting to know this person. Seems nice enough Jobi. He seems happy. Sunday morning we've dropped my parents off and that's like the first day Bhaiya and I have together. So we are like planning on watching a movie. Fridge leftover job. We had some plants. Sunday afternoon he disappears into his room on a phone call about 1pm 2pm ish. Then we start doing something in the evening. 6pm again he disappears, comes out at like 7:30. Maybe he's on the phone. Maybe I don't even know. I can't hear anything. I don't think anything of it. 7:30 comes out. I'm like chalo. We'll start the movie and about the halfway point we'll make dinner at 8:30 and then we'll have dinner. While watching the movie though, he's like yeah, just give me a second. He texts her maybe to say I'm watching a movie Jobi. And then we start watching the movie. The last 20 minutes of the movie. Also there's a tradition. Like there is a series of movies that Bhaiyana watch every time we meet. So this, it's not like a casual movie. It's little like this. Our thing, this series we watch together. Last 20 minutes of the movie. His phone is trying to kill itself. Like it is trying to jump off the bed. He gets up, goes into the balcony, starts talking. Dinner. I take our plates, I put them away. Then I'm like I watched the last 20 minutes alone. I empty the dishwasher then doesn't come. I load the dishwasher, doesn't come. Then. Not that I mind doing the chores while remembers Giving you an idea of time. Then I wipe the platform, I wipe the stove, wipe the dining table doesn't come. I'm getting ready for bed. I have to work in eastern time. I need to sleep. Tabhi comes in and he looks stressed. So I'm like is everything okay? Like why did you have to take a 90 minute call? Which Shweta I'm presuming. So then Sunday night things start spilling out. Key. She called me earlier today. I'm having a dark day. I'm. I'm not feeling good. I'm. And I need you to come to me. Dark day verbatim. I'm quoting her. I'm having a dark day. I need you to come. She's like but I'm just feeling low. I need you to come. And Bhaiya's like I've just dropped off the parents. We've been last two days. We went to big surgery. We did a long road trip. I'm very tired of driving. Your house is also 20 minutes away from me which means 50 minutes. I'll have to drive back and forth just to come see you. I'm happy to be on the phone with you but I am tired. My parents just left and I'm happy to talk to you. Jovi. And she. He kept saying and she got upset at him. It is not important. Actually no, she didn't say that that day. So she's like you didn't come. You. I. I needed you there and you weren't there. Joby. And she had a full meltdown. Yeah, right here is perfect. Thank you. Good night.
BGood night.
AThank you. Thank you. But enter with 1350. I needed you. You didn't come. Also she doesn't have a car so she always expects mother pick me up, drop me off, come to my house.
BClearly something is wrong.
AClearly something is wrong. But also I still don't have.
BMaggies.
AMaggies. Thank you.
BWhere are my Maggies?
AYes, that's day one. I don't question it. Maybe I don't know what their time it is. I'm not going to next day. It's a work day again. He is working from inside his room. I'm in the living room. We're both working independently at like 5pm after both our work is done we go for a swim. And I think he lets her know we are going for a swim. And 5 to 6:30 ish we are in the pool and we come back the pool, hot tub Sabka. And when we come back I immediately go for a bath. And when I come out again, he's stressed. But I, I don't know what's on. Going, going on still. He goes for a bath, he comes out. Then he's like, Shweta is calling me again. She needs me to go to her house. And I was like. And that night, the meltdown I have witnessed, I mean secondhand witness was a thing of beauty. So apparently when she found out swimming with me, she got damn offended because she's like, oh, I thought you said you were busy.
COh my God, exactly what being busy is.
AYeah, but you have time to go swimming with your sister.
COh, how does she.
AAnyway, she got pissed off you've gone swimming with your sister then we were in the pool. Must not have replied. Jobi. So she started spiraling. He okay, I guess this is it. Next thing she's done is sent him a picture. She sent him a picture. I understand you're busy until Wednesday was when I was leaving. I understand you're busy until Wednesday. But after Wednesday, please come collect your things and I don't want to see you. And then she's also like, I don't want to see you when you come, so please contact my flatmate and try and come and pick your things up when I'm not at home because I don't want to see you. Dhaiya doesn't reply to this next text.
COh, she's just getting, trying to get a response.
AYeah, she's trying every manipulation tactic. Then. I'm not going to respond to this. So he decides I will not talk to her tonight. So he's ignoring her messages about an hour later. Obviously phone is continuously blowing up calls, calls, calls. He's just put it face down. We're enjoying ourselves, solving a jigsaw puzzle. Jobi. He's ignoring her. About an hour later, I am lying on the floor crying, feeling so bad that I am feeling bad for someone. Just go. Fagbini Partha. Fifth person. Bro, that message is burned into my brain. Lying on the floor crying because I'm feeling so bad for someone. Just go far. Dini Partha. And why is she crying? Because he took his little sister swimming.
COh, I. I think HG is right. You need to write it down.
AThis is like one of the things I'm telling you, bro. Then that I was like, is everything okay in your relationship? Like, why is she having a tantrum this bad? And he's like, yeah, she's initiated a breakup conversation. And I'm like, what do you mean breakup conversation? Is this like a thing you do often? And he's like yeah. She keeps bringing up the breakup conversation at the oddest times. Like so I mean. And then he just started telling me so many red flags.
CHe's still with her as we speak.
BYeah.
COh my God.
BI.
CYou need.
BI mean.
AJust I. And I was like wait Sajan, do you have 20, 30 minutes? I need to talk to you about Shweta.
BHe can talk?
AYeah.
BWhile having dinner.
AYeah. Start cut your breath.
CWhat do you need help with?
BLike she's much worse than his first girlfriend and he broke up in an engagement with the close girlfriend. He needs to break up his own.
AHe needs to break up with her.
BI never saying something like this about anyone.
AYeah.
BBut like it is clear that that person.
AYeah.
CLike it's. It's not even a red flag. I don't like the color doesn't exist.
ALike it's a neon red flag. And I'm thinking of breaking left side between. Cheese grater.
CThis right. So I'll cut it in like smaller pieces. Yes.
AShe calls her mom, tells her why Bhaiya is still there physically. And this is not one time. This is a thing that she does.
COh that's it.
ABecause. Then Bhaiya feels uncomfortable complain I'm going outside. She'll make him sit in the room while she talks to her mother. It's very similar to this but it's.
CWe can just try this one. It's fine. Then I can just chop it off. It's like no big deal.
AActually I might give it the electric chopper, bro.
CIt not stress Haney.
AWhile she does that. Is just pure evil. Yeah. Then. She doesn't like him talking to other people about her. She thinks when Bhaiya talks to his friends or says I want to talk to Miha about us the problem. But everything she shares with her mom and like her friends is okay then One weird thing Bhaiya told me was she says that she is a very private person and doesn't like people to know about our lives. So some friends of hers know that we are dating. But some people who have asked her, she has told no. She has just lied. We are not dating. And now I have to keep track of who she's told what so that I don't mess it up. Cheese grade.
CAnd why doesn't he break up then?
AI don't know bro. I don't understand.
CSo what has he told you that why does he want to keep continuing this? What's his stand on it?
AMadhlab? I think his stand on it is I feel like I've changed my mind too fast after my conversation with you. So I want time to think about it. I was like, fair enough. Take time to think about it then. Take some time away from her so that she also can't influence your decision. He was like, yeah. What I'm going to do is take two weeks where I don't talk to her and I like sit and think about it. Make a list of like everything I want to think about and everything I think is a red flag. I'm like, that's a great idea, do it. But be prepared. As soon as you tell her you're going to do this, she's going to go ballistic.
CYeah, it's gonna be the worst of you seen.
AAnd this was the morning he was driving me to the airport. I was like, she's gonna go ballistic. You have to be prepared. That night I've landed here. Next morning he's like shweta and I got.
CI mean he'll see. Maybe it's a couple more times that you take to break him but ultimately he will see through her. That chaos attracts chaos. You know, like how like Ayush and Kimzy. Like I. I have this other friend, Aush and Kimzy.
AAt least dono toxic.
CIt's not a case where chaos attracts chaos for some reason has attracted chaos. So he'll realize it soon enough. That's what I'm saying.
ABecause he's going to lose his mind and like they were planning on moving in together and died. Oh yeah, the roommate thing. She has an apartment which she really likes and this.
BFirst of all, I don't know where we keep it. I'm just looking everywhere.
CWe'll find out tomorrow though. I.
BIs it being used?
CNo,
BI'll check too. But
Aroommate, huh? So she has an apartment she really likes and I think she was the one who found that apartment and found this roommate afterwards. But both their names are on the lease or abhi, just please.
BYou think this namajograph will be okay?
ADefinitely not.
CHow old is this?
AIt was made before I went to sf.
BOkay. It doesn't have the same consistency.
CYes, roommates. It's situation. So these has just been resized.
ASo both of them have her and her roommate have signed a new lease. Now she wants to move in with Bhaiya. Bhaiya was like this flatmate is a friend of ours at this point. Like I'm. I also think of her as a friend of mine. She's obviously closer to you also. You guys are pretty bonded. We shouldn't Kick her out of this flat. We should find it if we want to move in together. We should find a different apartment where two of us can move in and sit, start a new lease and you know she can figure out a different roommate. Huh. Or we. You can find a roommate replacement for yourself. As is always done. If you want to move out with your boyfriend, you move out. You don't kick your flatmate out of her lease that she is signed.
CNo, this is the one that doesn't work.
AYeah this is the one that doesn't work.
BI think this is the only one we have.
AI will hit you the blue one. No. Yes.
BHow are you social manager?
CYou can take up the next task.
AShe's decided I want to stay in this flat only and kick the roommate out. So she calls. She. She has made up her mind. She calls Bhaiya ki Maaye Karna Valli. I'm going to tell her to vacate the apartment because I want to move in with you. Bhaiya is like are you calling me because you want to discuss this or have you already made up your mind and you just want me to like validate fair question. And she's like no, no. I want to discuss this with you. Bhaiya's like then I think it's a bad idea. You shouldn't do this. First of all she signed the lease. But also this is our friend. We will lose this person if we do this kind of dickish thing to her. This girl. Ultimately that call ends with this girl getting upset at Bhariya because she feels he should be supporting her and he's not. Second she's Bhaad red flag. She's like I'm going to tell her to move out and I'm going to make life hell for my flatmate. I'm not going to cooperate with any household chores. I'm going to make life very difficult for her so that she feels like she has to move out. She has no choice. And then she's telling my brother Mihir when I'm bad I'm really bad. You don't want to get on my bad side.
COh my. Oh God.
BDude.
AMalipsh. This is a person who clearly has anger issues and is proud of it.
COh I feel bad for you brother.
AYeah. Bichara is such a pavam like bro,
Clike you deserve so much.
AHe's found this Gundi.
CGod. And he hadn't told you.
AHe hadn't told me any of this which also I was like why didn't you tell me before like did you or at least did you talk to any friend about this? He. All this is happening in my relationship and I think it's the little like concerning. We have breakup conversations almost once a week. She's so. She's also like so demanding of his time. He goes to pick her up, he goes to drop her off. Even me and my parents were there and we decided we'll go watch Project Hail Mary together. Bhaiya has booked tickets at a movie theater that's like 12 minutes from our house. So all of us have left from home, gone to her office 25 minutes away and then 15 minutes we've driven back to this theater just to pick her up. Four people have driven 40 minutes. Like she just feels like he's a personal chauffeur or whatever.
CIs she an old bk?
AShe's a middle child. She has an older and younger sister. Sister. And has been brought up in a joint family. Make it make sense. Same. I also don't understand. But.
CWe can just have like two bowls to eat.
ABowl meal. Yay or dhania mix Karde.
BI'm asking you. I just asked you a simple question.
CNo.
BOkay.
CHow do you make it?
AIt's just aluki dry sabzi.
CSo this should suffice.
AMasala dalte.
CSo you mix the cheese with the batter?
ANo, not with the batter. I put it on top. Oh okay.
COkay, understood.
AWhich you use?
BWe gave me normal. It's the one that I use with my power bank off all the time. The braided one. Have you used it? Did we use it for time lapse?
AWe didn't charge my phone. Embroidery machine.
CYeah okay. So Arun cheese or eggme?
ACheese or onions separately because. Fancy. It.
CAru might be Aru is actually getting
Aroka fight to whomst?
CI don't know if you know him. Have you heard of. He's like one year senior to us. No, I think they met like several months or close to a year ago to some friend of friends and yeah they've been hearing it all for. I basically was in formula one with the guy. I know the guy. Nice guy.
AI did meet Minnie a month or so ago when you see. Oh, Mini's here.
CYeah, yeah, sorry. Krish's sister went back.
AYeah, Anushka went back but I met Minnie and she was like yeah, she has a new boyfriend but she didn't tell me the name or anything. She was just like yeah I like the boy.
CSweet guy. I mean I met him or I hung out with him like 10 years ago.
ANice.
CThen at least now she's happy. I mean she was cute
Ahonestly. Next. Alumni as in I think she needs some stability.
CSo do we mix this?
AYeah, mix.
COkay.
AAmisha's met him. What does she think?
CCute homie. They did pottery or something yesterday.
AOh cute.
CMisha I think stayed the night with Aru and Neha last night.
AAru and Neha? They left together.
CI think it was a sleepover maybe or something like that. Neha I think lives with obedience now.
ANot sure sh. I could be wrong but poker, startup, flat and she. I mean I remember her buying a flat.
CI know. And then the next thing I heard last year is poker got banned in India. So Neha lost her job. Basically her role became obsolete late. So like yeah, it wasn't good for her. She. She was down slightly bad there and yeah. So I think she moved back with her parents a couple months ago. Finally did all good.
AHas she found a new job?
CYeah, I did enough Sky.
AFair enough.
CSister's wedding.
ASo good.
CTraveling for work. Oh yeah.
AHow was your work?
CHouston work was so Houston was. I went to Boston and Indiana for work. So that was like very quick.
AThat was an on site.
CYes, yes. And then Houston was his on site. So I was just like yeah I'll
Atell me to hear fair barbecue you
Csaid must really good. Very nice humid weather. And he had night shifts so his project was around like. Like optimizing, analyzing plane cleaning time. So the windows clean stuff would sit overnight. So basically would come back at 2:30 or something. So even though I was like by myself, I was chilling. It was like further south and hum. Airport.
AWe were like oh yeah, you must be staying at the airport.
CYeah. So the max we could do is like one barbecue lunch. That's okay.
AThat makes sense.
CNext.
BDude, I feel like today enough Batayani.
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